We hear the phrase “rape culture” thrown around quite a bit from feminists, but it’s always referred to in the context of men being the perpetrator. I decided to set out to see what the actual definitions were, and how they thought gender played a role.
Wikipedia defined rape culture as:
…a setting in which rape is pervasive and normalized due to societal attitudes about gender and sexuality. There is disagreement over what defines rape culture and as to whether any societies currently meet the criteria for a rape culture.
Behaviors commonly associated with rape culture include victim blaming, sexual objectification, trivializing rape, denial of widespread rape, refusing to acknowledge the harm caused by some forms of sexual violence, or some combination of these.
Alright, this seems like a somewhat fair definition. There’s no pointing fingers at one group or another, it’s just a plain description of what this idea entails.
However, that’s where the “fair” definitions I found stopped. According to Emilie Buchwald, author of Transforming a Rape Culture, rape culture is:
a complex set of beliefs that encourage male sexual aggression and supports violence against women. It is a society where violence is seen as sexy and sexuality as violent. In a rape culture, women perceive a continuum of threatened violence that ranges from sexual remarks to sexual touching to rape itself. A rape culture condones physical and emotional terrorism against women as the norm . . . In a rape culture both men and women assume that sexual violence is a fact of life, inevitable . . . However . . . much of what we accept as inevitable is in fact the expression of values and attitudes that can change.
Whoa, whoa, whoa! Easy there! There’s more intense finger pointing in this definition than in Michelangelo’s famous The Creation of Adam!
At least Wikipedia, the savior of our high school and college papers, has the decency to concede that this can be carried out by either gender.
For a recent example of men experiencing rape culture, The Metro has reported:
“A ‘model’ mother who had weekly sex sessions with a schoolboy then threatened him when he ended their relationship has been jailed.
Rachel Marshall, 42, showered the teen with gifts, including money, aftershave and even an iPhone 6.
But when he started a relationship with a girl his own age, she threatened both of them and even pretended she was pregnant with his child, Caernarfon Crown Court heard.
Marshall plead guilty to four counts of sexual activity with a child between October 2014 and February 2015 and was jailed for 40 months.
The court heard how she sent the pair a fake baby scan and a pregnancy magazine and texted the girl saying: ‘You are both f***ing dead.’
Prosecutor Simon Rogers said Marshall had started sending ‘flirtatious’ messages to the boy and eventually asked if he would like to go for a drive.
She picked him up near his home and they went to a car park on the Sychnant Pass, near Conwy, where Marshall spoke about difficulties in her marriage.
The defendant then kissed the youngster and her behaviour escalated.
The pair had sex almost weekly including at Marshall’s home but the meetings were normally in her car.
Mr Rogers said: ‘His confidence in the situation began to deteriorate. The defendant became aware of this.
‘Her behaviour began to freak him out. She wouldn’t leave him alone. She was continually messaging him.
‘She would send naked photographs of herself to him and began contacting his friends.’
The barrister added that when the boy formed a relationship with a girl his own age, Marshall started claiming that he had made her pregnant.
Mr Rogers said it was ‘a deeply unpleasant course of harassment against the complainant and his girlfriend. It was done to manipulate him to continue the relationship with her.’
Judge Heywood said Marshall was of previous good character and a mother and wife who had a succession of good jobs.
He said what happened had a ‘disastrous’ effect on the boy who had threatened suicide.
He told Marshall: ‘You knew this young man’s age and took advantage of the situation for your own desires.’”
Now ask yourself, if men are able to look at a woman the wrong way and it’s considered rape culture, then what this woman did to this child most definitely has to be part of the argument too.
Of course, you won’t see any feminists coming to this little boy’s defense – probably because he was born the wrong gender.
H/T: The Metro